Round Table Round Up: Fears, Evils, and Sorrows OH MY!

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Somethings in life just can’t be explained. Others can be explained with a degree of certainty. And when all else fails, we can usually explain things with common sense, religion, science, or some form thereof. This is an especially difficult thing when it comes to explaining fears, sorrows, and evils to our kids. Let’s face it, the world is not a bright and cheery place that we like our children to think it is. When they are young, it’s easy to keep that little bubble around them that helps them feel safe from harm. But as they grow, or as life happens, there will come a time when things must be explained. From nightmares of fears of clowns, to death, sickness and war. And how we approach our kids about these things is very critical to their understanding and knowledge.

On Wednesday, this was the topic of our weekly #DadsRT Twitter chat (held at 9pm EST every Wednesday). Led by yours truly, we chatted with other parents about their fears, their kids fears, how we approach and sooth them, and how we explain the greater evils and unimaginable sorrows of the world to them. If you missed the chat, I know you are heartbroken and condemning yourself, but fear not. Here is a Round Table Round Up of what we talked about and what we learned.

First, we learned that kids are afraid of many things. 

We then learned how different parents help to ease their children’s fears or face them and defeat them. Then we moved on to fears and evils our kids might not know about, and how we will approach them when the time comes.

It seemed to be a general agreement between the chatters that kids deserve to be told the truth. That we shouldn’t raise them with a “no fear” mentality, but rather, acknowledge their fears and set them up with the tools to overcome them. It’s very important to many parents that they are honest and mature and open with their children. This includes letting children know about our own fears as adults. That fear is a natural, human emotion that we all feel.

 

Finally, speaking of fear, we discussed what we do NOT look forward to having to explain to our kids. And I think it’s safe to say that some of those times are a fear for many of us parents!

So what was the big takeaway for us from last night’s chat? No matter what it is we fear, what it is our children fear, it’s the simple fact that fear is a common bond for every human being. Somethings in life happen for reasons that we cannot explain. Some things are easy to explain but it doesn’t make them easier to accept. When it comes to our children, we want them to be confident in coming to us with their fears, know that fear is natural, and know that even we as adults and parents feel fear too. And we also want to empower our children (and ourselves) to rise above these fears.

If you weren’t able to join us for the chat on Wednesday, it’s never too late to join the discussion. Keep the chat going in the comments below. How do you approach your kids about their fears? Are you open about your own? What do you do to explain new fears and the evils and sorrows of life to your children?

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  1. Happiest Daddy says:

    Sounds like a great chat & I’m sorry that I missed it. It’s a great topic and one that I ponder often. I was anxious about things as a kid and I’ve worked hard to make sure my kids are not afraid of things, even encouraging them to pick up bugs and lizards — things I never wanted to do as a child.

    My grandfather always cautioned me to never let my children see fear. He said a child needs to see a strong father to reinforce their confidence in whatever situation is going on. I’m not sure I agree with him and I’ve debated in my mind how much fear or anxiety to let my kids see. It’s a natural human emotion and reaction but I do think that small children especially need to see parents who are in control, in charge and decisive. Parents need to be calm in the face in the fear or a challenging situation to help their kids process their emotions.

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