RTD: Setting Parenting Goals

Sometimes just the process of goal-setting can be beneficial.  However, setting goals is something few people do and even fewer know HOW to do correctly.  This is not something I have done before, or would have thought to do on my own.  I found myself reflecting on a question my wife asks me all the time, “What are you looking forward to this year?”  Such a simple question, but with the conclusion of her grad school, we have suddenly found ourselves with a mass amount of time on our hands.  

I will confess that with that extra time I first considered how much better at my career I can be this year, or even how I can steal some of that extra time to trim my waistline.  However, it didn’t cross my mind to think of how I can become a better parent for my kids this year, or even a better husband.

Making goals for parenthood could easily become the non-attainable New Year’s Resolution goals many people set, but there are certain rules for writing effective goals.

1) Make it measurable.  Your goal should have a starting point and an ending point.  It is not enough to say that you will be more something, or do something more.  You must ask the question, “More than what?”  Where are you now, and where do you want to go?  It is not enough to say I want to travel more.  Instead, pick a destination and say, I want to go to Peru!

2) Make is simple.  Do not over-think your goals.  Find something you want, set it as a goal.  I want to take my kid to their first _____.  I want to expose my kids to aviation by taking them up in a prop-plane.  I want to watch the sunset from the top of Mt. _____ with the kids, or take them backpacking for ___ days.  Think is, and set it as a goal.

3)Find your path.  The shortest route between two points is a straight line, but don’t be discouraged if life puts you on a scenic detour.  Sometimes, there are more teachable moments to experience on our way to becoming better versions of ourselves.

This week we are chatting about setting our own parenting goals for this year.  With the school year about to start up, there is no better time than NOW to plan and prepare for how awesome we will become this year.  Join us Wednesday as we share our goals, or help come up with our them.

~JB

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