Punished for Having Bad Parents

So you fed the kids fast food twice this month because you were too busy to cook.  So you let your kids watch a little more TV than usual this week because you had a bad cold. Nobody’s perfect.  You do your best but sometimes you let it slide a little because you have to.  Sometimes you have a bad day and it’s okay to have a bad day.

For some parents, every day is a bad day.  Whether it’s circumstantial or just bad parenting, their children are disadvantaged.  So I ask:

What does the future hold for these kids?  
What kind of parents will they become?  
What can we do to help these kids?
What can we do to help these parents?


Discuss below in the comments, and join us this Wednesday on Twitter as we have a Live Chat about this topic at 6pst/9est using the #DadsRT hashtag.


The Beginning
About James Hudyma

Dad. Husband. Teacher. Canadian. Guitar Picker. Songwriter.


Space: The Final Frontier…

  "Space," according to the Hitchhiker's … [Read Article]

Photo credit: jenny downing / Foter.com / CC BY

BeerWise: Fruit Beer…

With summer just around the corner you've probably … [Read Article]

Modern Dads - Round Table

Modern Dads – A Huge Miss by…

Modern Dads on A&E, upon first glance, was a … [Read Article]


  1. Brickwade says:

    Have we defined “bad parenting”?

    Being on a smart phone at the park should hardly be classified as bad parenting. You can’t see the big picture and that could be an independent break for both.

    I work hard to instill a sense of comfort in my kids not needing their hands held 24hrs a day. My kids should have the chance to play solo, or feel inspired to make new playground friends while I casually watch from a bench.

    We need to cut parents some slack before casting major judgement.

    • Laid Back Dad agrees.

      In my estimation, helicoptering is bad parenting; kids need to learn to work things out. Let ’em. But keep an eye on them from a distance, by all means. That’s good parenting. If you think you can keep a safe eye on Noodle while smartphoning, that’s your business, and maybe you’re good at it. I’m not.

      Laid Back Dad neither imposes his techniques on others, nor compromises his techniques in the presence of others. (Easier said than done.)

  2. Al says:

    I am perplexed by this line of reasoning. The initial question throws up a bunch of straw men ( straw children?) and then begs you to be their savior. Of course we could all conjure up to mind a few hapless kids born to terrible humans. But most lie somewhere in between.

    And as Agent Starling found out, sometimes you can’t save even one. So where does your good intention become harassment ( like we fear from the PC police)? What if I felt compelled to save your child from eternal damnation by showing him the Truth of Allah’s message?

    I’d worry more about your own than meddling in people you have judged from afar against the holy measuring stick that is yourself…or rather the person you wish to be ( but admittedly are not yet).

    But what are you honesty trying to suss out here? How to help parents be better, even ones who aren’t asking for your help? Seems like the exact opposite of the libertarian, “best example leads by example” line of thinking you normally support around here.

    Am I being provocative, sure. But it’s worth asking nonetheless.

    Whateer you reply. Keep up the good work. Thanks for your writing.

    • James Hudyma says:

      Provocative is what we need. If we’re never challenged we’ll never grow.

  3. DisastroDad says:

    We all know what bad parenting is.

  4. Sara Felix says:

    There may indeed be a select few bad seeds, but most kids are a product of poor parenting choices James & it’s just getting worse as the world continues to speed up with no time for them

This is what I think...