Dads Are Like Moms

The other day a family member made a comment that got me thinking. She said, “You do so much at home and for your kids, you’re like another mother to them.”

The comment was made in support of my efforts to be an involved dad; one who loves to take part in every aspect of my kids’ lives. It was also said in a spirit of fascination at the teamwork my wife and I display in parenting our children together, ignoring stereotypical gender roles and focusing solely on providing the best environment in which our children can grow up. It was also said by someone who grew up and raised her family at a time when traditional parenting roles reigned, a time that is not so long ago but seems deeply foreign to the vast majority of parents today.

What my family member meant was that I’m as apt to mow the lawn as I am to vacuum the floors; as comfortable making the boys’ lunches as I am fixing a broken toilet. At its heart, to me, this is what parenting looks like in 2017. I am dad; hear me roar.

And I’m not alone. Most of the dads I know are doing the same things. We’re working at home raising our kids while our wives are out working in offices, schools and any other job you can think of. For many of us, it’s an all hands on deck mentality. We do these things not only because we want to, but because we have children and these things have to get done.

This army of involved dads doesn’t expect a pat on the back or accolades. We helped bring our children into the world and we’re helping to raise them in any way we can. It’s not only the right thing to do, it’s the only thing to do. I still work several jobs and we have a unique time arrangement in our home but it works for us and it enables me to do many chores and housework that might otherwise fall by the wayside.

For me, I crave every single, solitary second I get to spend with my kids and it feels as if time has sprinted by from the time they were born to today. It’s a blink of an eye and they’re 7 and 5 years old. If I can help make their youth safer, cleaner, more conducive to a productive and healthy environment, why wouldn’t I do that?

This is a wonderful time to be a dad and it’s only going to get better. Dads are working right along side moms, or in some cases, taking the lead, in parenting and that’s as it should be. This is a partnership, after all, the best partnership, I believe, and working together with our spouse to carry some of the burden is something I love and embrace.

(Photo by Neal Gillis on / CC BY-NC)


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