My kids really are amazing.
It amazes me that one could have been blessed with all the athletic ability in the world, while the other has no sports bone in his body. One could have the gift of being an amazing artist while the other can’t draw the most basic of stick figures. One, learning comes easy too, yet the other struggles.
As much as we think that our abilities as parents is what shapes our kids, I truly feel that each kid is born with something. A certain IT factor.
I have never forced anything on my kids and yet they both seem to gravitate toward certain things. When Tyler was born I had these ideas that I could turn him into this amazing athlete and that we would sit around on the weekends watching sports (much to his mothers disliking.) Sports just isn’t his thing. He tries but he just doesn’t have IT. He’s an artist, a scholar, someone that will amaze you with his mind.
The IT that he was born with is much different than his younger brother.
I could tell from an early age that Carter had a certain something when it came to sports. He always gravitated towards the more physical activities and just by the way he threw a ball you could tell he had IT. Books and art, while he enjoys them, just aren’t what he is into. Football, basketball, baseball, pretty much anything with a ball is what gets him going. I never forced him into anything, it was just something he was born with.
What we need to do as parents is to find out what our kids IT is and cultivate it. For every kid it’s different. Certain kids just aren’t cut out to do certain things and that’s OK. I’ll be just as happy attending my sons art opening as I will be my other ones basketball game. As long as they are happy with whatever IT is, I’ll be happy.