The Feminine Climax

… I mean FEMINIST… ;-)

[Disclaimer: I’m not as big of a prick as this may make me sound.]  I had a thought today… That Sexism is an invented word.

I think that if they were less angry and thought for the other half of a second, they would have called it Genderism, because it’s being prejudice against a gender.  I am not sexist, because I love sex, and I have no prejudice towards sex at all.

But I digress… Back to my original rambling.

Before the femenist movement, you had a division of labor; labor inside the home, and labor outside the home, and they both sucked.  My own mother (the ex Black Panther) talked about the feminist movement as a mistake women made.

Men went from protecting them (for the most part), and sheltering them from the monsters of the world to competing against them. The feminist push for women to work outside of the home created a stigma against those who still chose to remain in the home.

My mother was a working mom, my wife is a working mom, but my wife’s grandma was more of the traditional role.  This is not a discussion about right or wrong, but just to think.  Consider what is happening in society now?  More and more men are staying home.  Was this the point of the feminist movement; for men to be thrust into “women’s work” and roles and to try and vouche for equal consideration as equally capable in those positions?  Was it to work in their career, get knocked-up, spit out a kid, wean/pump/formulize them, then head off into the corporate sunset again?

OR……

Did men finally realize that they miss less sports when they’re home all day?

I was just thinking!

-JB

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Comments

  1. Way to draw me in with thinking this was about the magical climax, and with the “O” face!

    • ManvDadhood says:

      @therookiedad Well, I figure that the media and Hollywood use cheap ploys to grab our attention… Why can’t I? ;-)

  2. therookiedad says:

    @readbradthedad I love how he drawed me in with the picture of the “O” face too! @ManvDadhood #dadsRT

    • readbradthedad says:

      @therookiedad @ManvDadhood Lol, I know….I was hooked with the title and slayed with the picture. JB must have a great Marketing dept.

  3. ManvDadhood says:

    @readbradthedad I am quite sure I already did when I wrote it! #BloggerRegret? #DadsRT

  4. JamesHudyma says:

    That was an excellent way to start my day.  Great laugh and left me thinking and smiling.  Both very good.  
     
    My mom was a “housewife” and loved it.  My wife’s mom worked and loved it.  My wife works and is on the fence; she wishes she could be home with the kids but she really loves her job.  As far as being an At-Home-Dad – no thank you.  I get a taste of at-home life every summer and it just isn’t for me.

    • ManvDadhood says:

      @JamesHudyma My wife and I work opposite schedules, and she’s ALSO now in school. We’ve both concluded that I need to talk to adults on a more regular basis, because I will otherwise revert to a more immature state. ;-)

  5. Your cheap marketing ploy to get me to read this post left me feeling dirty and used.
     
    Okay, not really. I read pretty much everything on here anyway. :) And like most, it was both entertaining and thought provoking. I did the SAHD thing for the first year with both of my kids and loved it. I’m glad there was a movement that resulted in my ability to stay home with them, and be at least kind of socially acceptable. :)

    • ManvDadhood says:

      @twistedxtian Agreed. People have strengths and weaknesses. It is an individual thing, and NOT a matter of gender. I remember from a young age thinking about being a teacher, and a parent. I’m glad to be living in a time where those can be seen as acceptable goals for a man.

  6. Love this line, “The feminist push for women to work outside of the home created a stigma against those who still chose to remain in the home.”
     
    I often think about this and stuff related to this.  Nobody, male or female, should be held back from pursuing their dreams/passions, and if making it in the “outside world” is that dream/passion, then so be it.  But it shouldn’t be at the expense of the traditional roles our grandparents, and to a lesser degree, parents grew up with.  
     
    I know my wife hates leaving the kids on a daily basis to go to work.  She has that motherly instinct that tells her she should be the one raising them and nurturing them as much as sanity allows.  If I was making enough money, she would most likely choose to stay home until they are older.  And I’d hate to think if that was ever the case, a stigma would exist against her.
     
    Great post JB.

  7. My wife and I have had similar discussions. Early on in our relationship, we were both damn near broke, so we both worked. She made more than I did (which I was nowhere near threatened by) and we made do.
     
    Our youngest was born, which forced her out of the workplace but we STILL made do.
     
    Once I joined the military, things got a lot easier on us, but we were still just above the US poverty level. We discussed her going back to work, but only if she truly wanted to. With the little ones’ school schedules and the fact that she would only be able to work part-time, we decided that it just worth her working to pay for someone else to watch the kids.
     
    Today, none of the kids need daycare, but we still hold to the “do what you want” mentality. If she wants to work, fine. If not, that’s fine too. 
     
    I’d love to stay at home, but it just doesn’t make sense to work things that way. Maybe that’s the trick to it all is deciding who it makes the most sense for to be in the workplace?

  8. Left Coast Dad says:

    I have a theory that involves World War II and how women took the place of many men in the work place and how that helped spur on the next major wave of… whatever. Then, with women “stepping up” and taking on a larger role in the home, it’s only natural men would wind up taking on a larger role IN the home. A few decades ago there was still quite a bit of backlash against women in the work place, and now there’s a bit of a backlash against dads in the home. It’s a slow process this social change.

  9. Father figure says:

    Thanks for the post.
    There is no such thing as gender. It is a social construct.
    Roles and duties and another consteruct.
    The role of homemaker has been devalued by technology and feminism.
    There are about as many intersexed people born with both functioning male and female genitalia as there are redheads. Feminism as a movement has nothing to do with femininity nor does being male or female preclude one to being feminine or masculine.

    As fathers we ought to be pushing for a society that understands this basic truth. Children need a balance of masculine and feminine energies and it can come from one balanced parent or large family where the dynamics play out in a healthy way.

    • “Children need balance…” Love that line. They need balance of masculine abd feminine energies, of ambition and empathy, or focus and creativity. Thank you for your comment!

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