Being The Right Dad At The Right Time

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I am constantly questioning myself with who I am as a dad. Pondering such points as “Am I protecting them the best I can?” and “Do they know they are being surrounded with as much love as is humanly possible to give?” I also wonder about their perception of me. Do they think I am awesome? Am I fun to be with? More importantly, do they think I am the type of dad that they need and deserve?

That last questioning point of self-reflection is what brings me to this piece today. Show of hands if you have had this moment of wondering yourself. When I am dead and gone, and my kids reflect on who I was as a father, will they say I am the dad I needed to be in all aspects? Will I have set the right example for them as to what a good dad truly is?

Good dads are not always the favorite and most well liked person at all times. Disciplining a child is neither fun for a parent nor enjoyed by the child. It is still something that must be done. Letting your child make mistakes to learn a lesson can be a very hard decision. Though we know that in the end, it is for a very good reason. Giving my children space and not being the helicopter parent has been a hard concept for me to grasp. I know that it is necessary for my children to have said space though.

Being the right dad at the right time. That’s what it means to be a “good” dad. I am blessed to have been raised by a dad who knows exactly what this means. Whether it’s creating magical moments, teaching me hard lessons, or just letting go and letting God, my dad has always seemed to know what kind of dad he needed to be at what times. This, I will always remember about him.

It’s also something I will try harder to be. I don’t want to be the parent that just gives in. I don’t want to be the father that was never there. I don’t want to be remembered for just simply existing in my children’s lives. I want to be the right dad at the right times. Thia is the legacy I want to leave behind. This is the example I want to set.

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  1. I think you make good points. Knowing when to push/discipline and when to back off is a balancing act.
    It seems to me if you think about this as much as this article would indicate, then you are a great dad who your children will appreciate similar to the way you appreciate your dad.

    • That Johnny Dude says:

      Thank you for the kind words. I do think about it often. It’s not an easy balance to maintain sometimes. Thanks for checking out my first post!

      • You got it. I agree with you about it being a challenging balance and hope one day my children will be able to articulate enought to say that I managed it well.

  2. Excellent post! I keep asking myself “Am I doing it right?” “Am I really the best possible dad my children could have?” Once I tweeted something that went something like this: “Am I a good dad? I think I am. Can I be a better dad? I know I can”. In the end, no matter how hard we try, there’ll always be room for improvement.

    • That Johnny Dude says:

      Very well put!

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