I took an oath when I became a husband. I am not talking about my marriage vows. The oath is what I would do for my wife.
Put her before everything!
I mean EVERYTHING! She wants a girls night but I need to get some work done, I will get the work done early so she can have her girls night. There is a big game on TV and I want to go out to a bar and watch it but she has a ton of homework, I will watch it at home while I watch the Kid. She wants to watch TV to go to sleep but it keeps me up, I will let her watch TV to go to sleep. She wants to drop everything and go to Law school, I will put my needs on hold to support her through it.
Some may believe that she has a grip tight on my balls. Some may say that I am whipped. I hate to say it but I’m not. I made a commitment to her on our wedding day, anything I want comes after what she wants.
My wife means the world to me. One night when we were getting ready to go to bed, her mind was racing as a new semester of law school was starting, she asked me if she could watch TV in bed to calm down. Putting her comfort before mine I said sure. She knows I can’t sleep when the TV is on. I do not care. If it helps her sleeps that is all that matters.
She told me that night that she is lucky to have a husband that is willing to do the little things like that. Little does she know of the oath that I took when she became my wife.
I know how stressful my wife’s life is right now and despite some difficult times at work, her needs always come before my own. She is starting the new semester, figuring out how her teachers teach and trying to be a mother. Whatever I can do to help her feel at ease is the least I can do for what she is doing for our family.
What do you do to help make your spouse feel better or to make their life easier?
About The Rookie Dad
I wound up giving up my “day job” so I would have more time to do stuff around the house and help her out.
I married a little later in life and learning to consider my wife’s needs first or at least using some sort of prioritizing was difficult for me. For many years I did whatever I wanted whenever I wanted to. I’ve grown so much as a husband. I have to say that I don’t really see myself as putting her needs first but I often do many of the things you do because I’m really easy going. She likes things a certain way and I just don’t really care that much about the details. In any case, it works for us.