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Don’t Leave Me

January 15, 2013 By 6 Comments

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7:40am – I load up the car with my work things along with putting the Kid into his car seat.

7:42am – The Kid points out all the fire trucks at the fire station.

7:43am – The Kid screams “BUS!” as a school bus drives by.

7:45am – I pull in to the day-care parking lot and suddenly the Kid starts to cry.

7:46am – The Kid wants me to hold him all the way into day-care.

7:47am – Walking into the Kids day-care room he doesn’t let me go from his hug.

7:48am – His teacher picks him up crying from me walking out of the day-care.

Parents can relate to this.  I’m sure many of them find it amazing that I have it down to 8 minutes.

Hearing the Kid cry on his way into daycare is not the way that I want to send him in.  We recently changed our day care provider and I know that it is because he does not have many friends and is not familiar with the teachers.

It is even more difficult for me because for the last 8 months I have not had to drop him off at day care.  I forgot how difficult this process is.  I enjoy every minute I spend with the Kid.  With the exception of now, teething, yet again.  I thought we were done with that process, but we weren’t.

As I pull away from the day care knowing that my son is crying in the room, I can not help but think that going back, picking him up, taking the day off work and spending it with my son would be a better option than working the day away.

I wish that there was a way that I could tell my son that dropping him off is almost as difficult on me as it is him.  I think about him as I am driving to work, almost forgetting about the sports radio that is on in the car.   It is so difficult to get my mind of my son as he cries when I leave him.  I hate to leave him like that.  I know that he thinks we are leaving him but he does not know that we are not, we will be back at 5pm to pick him up.

How difficult is it for you to leave your child at day care? Do you have a strategy that helps?

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  • http://www.readbradthedad.com Brad the Dad

    My wife does the dropping off, so it’s hard for me to relate, but I often wonder what my reaction would be. I kinda think stuff like this is good for them in that it helps them grow and become stronger. When my wife and I do date night, my in-laws often try to distract the boys so they don’t get upset when we leave. I put a stop to this. It’s life, they need to get used to it. If they are crying when we are leaving, while sad, it’s good for them and I know they will be laughing and playing shortly after.

    • http://www.therookiedad.com The Rookie Dad

      I have always wondered what goes through their little minds when we leave them somewhere. Do they really feel that we are leaving them for good? Or are there some co-dependency issues going on? Either way it does help them grow. I made a point to tell my son today that I have to work late and will be playing with him afterwords and he seemed to do alittle bit better.

  • ppmd

    Maybe I’m a heartless bastard, but I have no problem leaving a kid at pre-school. I have been to 4 different pre-schools and the worst ones are those where I have to go in with the child. That clear separation between pre-school and outside world may be tough, but in the long run is better for the child. Thankfully I haven’t had any kids who were cryers for very long. It would suck if it went on for months, but I’d keep my eyes on the long-term goal of self sufficiency. The best ones are those that can deal with crying kids with the love and attention they need.

    • http://www.therookiedad.com The Rookie Dad

      It does not help that right now we are going through his 2 year molar phase which is causing all sorts of problems with him right now.

  • http://daddysincharge.com Daddy’s in Charge?

    Like a band aid… grip it and rip it. Get in, get out and know that as soon as you leave the kid is going to stop crying. The NEVER cry all day. Just forget about it.

  • AskAGreatDad

    I try and leave the place in the morning without them knowing I have left for the day. This seems to work when the sitter is at our place. Never had to drop them off somewhere else, but relatives, which never upsets them.

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