A Pledge to my Wife & a Gift for my Boys

I love you. You know that. I tell you often and I hope that you feel it.

But I’m not sure I always show you how much I love you.

And that is something I pledge to work to change.

Last week, during a rapid-fire, entertaining Dads Roundtable chat on Twitter we discussed the topic of kids, dating and healthy relationships.

I tweeted that our children learn how a man treats a woman by watching how we treat their mothers.

It’s certainly not a groundbreaking thought.

But it’s one that didn’t sink in for me until that moment.

With two little ones  — one walking and one crawling through the house — our lives are hectic, sleep-challenged and chore-filled. We both can become raw with exhaustion, overwhelmed with to-do lists and testy over who emptied the dishwasher last.

But those are no reasons for me to slack off when it comes to the most important relationship of my life.

Those feelings are fleeting and inconsequential to the grand scheme — creating a healthy, loving household in which to raise our children and creating a healthy, loving relationship for our children to view and exemplify.

I’m thrilled that we are demonstrative in front of the boys.

Remember when the toddler would ask, “Daddy, will you kiss Mommy?”

I felt a surge of pride that he wanted to see us kiss and show affection to one another.

It’s too bad he wasn’t going down for a nap soon after to give us some alone time.

But I digress.

I can’t blame my parents but I don’t recall a lot of romantic moments between them or moments when they laughed at something the other one said. Maybe they divorced too early for me to cement those moments in a relationship foundation.

We do those things. And I want to do them more.

We need to.

These boys are looking at me — and you — for a how-to guide on everything. We are their role models and the most powerful examples they will have in their lives.

Therefore, I pledge to watch my tone with you, no matter how sleep-deprived and surly I am. I pledge to kiss you first thing in the morning, no matter whether you had the energy to brush your teeth the night before. I pledge to always show you the respect you deserve, no ifs, ands or buts.

If I can do those simple things, maybe it’ll help our boys to be better boyfriends, husbands and fathers.

And what better gift can I give us, them and the future generations of our families?


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  1. James Hudyma says:

    I love this post. It is so important to show love.

  2. happiestdaddy says:

    So important and so easy to forget. I had no idea how much our oldest would enjoy seeing Mommy & Daddy show each other affection. Hopefully, we’re building a good foundation for him.

  3. I think there are a lo of guys (like myself) who could have written this word-for-word. Great post!

  4. happiestdaddy says:

    Thanks JB! And thanks for the chat that inspired it.

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