9 Small Ways to Put Her in a Better Mood

Is your wife in a bad mood? Or is she just tired? Here are 9 great ideas for cheering up your wife.

1) Give a Small Gift
My wife loves flowers. Buying her flowers (as long as they are not fake) is a foolproof way of cheering her up. Other gifts like her favorite chocolate or a dessert also work.

2) Give a Massage
My wife enjoys foot massages, especially after a day when she’s been on her feet for a long time. She’s very happy whenever I give her a foot (or back) massage.

3) Plan a Special Date Night
If I really want to cheer up my wife, I’ll plan a special date for her and I. It could be taking her to a new restaurant, or buying tickets to watch some local theatre, or going to visit someplace she’s never been. Sometimes I tell her to block off some time in the week without telling her why – this gives her a surprise to look forward to later in the week.

4) Cook Dinner
My wife usually does the cooking, so sometimes I’ll give her a break and cook. Or when I’m not confident I can cook something decent (cooking a crappy dinner usually makes things worse), I’ll order take-out. Giving her a rest from cooking always cheers her up.

5) Do House Chores
Take the initiative to do the dishes, the laundry, take out the garbage, or clean the bathroom. Give her a break. It’s even better if you do the chores that your wife usually does (and not just the ones you’re supposed to do).

6) Go on a Shopping Trip
Whenever I suggest taking my wife to go shopping, she perks up. It could be a short trip to the mall to buy some new clothes, or it could be a mini road trip to the nearest outlet.

7) Tell a Funny Story
My wife appreciates a good laugh. I like telling her something funny that happened during my day, or sometimes, I’ll just retell a funny story from our past.

8) Sing and Dance
I’m a decent singer but not a very good dancer. Whenever I attempt to dance for my wife she finds it amusing. It’s not my skills that cheer her up, but my effort (and lack of skill).

9) Don’t Cheer Up Your Wife
Sometimes the best way to cheer up your wife is not to cheer up your wife. This seems counter-intuitive, but women are sometimes counter-intuitive. I’ve found that when my wife is upset or in a bad mood, the best thing I can do is not try to fix her problem (i.e. by trying to cheer her up). The best thing I can do is to listen and understand her. Inevitably, after she feels like I understand her, she cheers up (and I didn’t really do anything). This is one of the most effective and cost-efficient ways to cheer up your wife.

As a husband, I see it as my job description to cheer up my wife. But it’s more than a job to me, it’s something I love doing.

What are some ways you cheer up your wife?

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Tim is a cheerful pessimist who loves hockey. He proposed to his wife Olive with a goat and together they blog about thoughtful marriage, parenting, and life at www.timandolive.com. Their first ebook, Fight With Me: How We Learned to be Married, is available for free. Tim and Olive live with their daughter near Vancouver, Canada.

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  1. Great list all around. I’m especially fond of #2. I put this on my schedule now when I’m doing my weekly planning. I make sure that a few nights a week before bed, I give my wife a massage. It’s a great wind down time for her and has an obvious intimate connection that doesn’t hurt either;)

  2. Dan says:

    It turns out that googling how to cheer up your wife is not a good way to cheer up your wife.

  3. I have a great idea!! Slow down, connect with her, look her IN THE EYES and ask, “How are you? Can I help”… do it with sincerity and compassion and see what happens 🙂

  4. Scooty Poot says:

    I do all of those all the time. I need something more. Thanks anyway though…

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