As parents we all have a hard time finding the time to make time for the bedroom. It is just something that comes with being parents. The kids schedules gets in the way, the kids won’t go to sleep, or the kids want to be around you all the time so you never have time alone.
Children live a busy life, more busy than most adults. Between soccer practice, homework, school, and socializing it makes adult life seem like a cake walk. At Least that is what I remember the moment I stepped out into the adult world. One thing they (usually) don’t have worry about is their partner and confidant. They do not have to think about how their busy schedule effects the other person.
As parents we have to juggle both our children’s and our own schedule. As a result intimacy is usually pushed the back burner.
So how do we keep our sex life going?
Simple!
You have to make time for it.
One tactic is to make a plan for intimacy every night no matter what. You can plan for it and if it does not happen, there is always the hope for tomorrow. It is a given that sometimes life will get in the way and it will not happen each night. The hope however, is there for tomorrow. If you communicate with your partner that it is either going to happen or not is key in this. Letting them know that either you are too tired or worn out and it will have to wait until tomorrow will also convey to them that you are still wanting to make the time for intimacy. Do not however, make it an every night deal that you deny the other person the things that they need. That will make them feel like you are not attracted to them and cause resentment in the relationship.
Sex is a struggle for all couples with children and you have to start getting creative at when and sometimes how you find the time. So what are you waiting for! Put the child in their high chair give them something to eat and go have a quicky!
About The Rookie Dad
I really thought this was going to be a giveaway post for “Love Dice” (http://www.dicecollector.com/MINT16_AMSCAN_GET_LUCKY_LOVE_DICE_01.jpg) But it was still good!
HAHA!
@realmattdaddy Lol, Matt!
That would have been awesome!
We had our door locked for some “fellowship time” when we had only 5 kids, ages 10, 5, 3, 2, &1, with the kids watching a movie downstairs. For some reason the whole troop came upstairs to pound on the front door to our bedroom. It was locked so we ignored them. Then, we heard our 10 year old say, “Let’s just go use the back door.” That was the end of that “meeting!” No lock on the backdoor! Bought one that day!
@gina valley That is funny… We recently moved, and he trouble because we figured 2:30am was a safe time to meet, but our 2yo woke up… still a bit disoriented… That was a rough night.
Sex? Whats that?