Strategies to Fight Depression

Editor’s note:

This post was published a few years ago but the message is still relevant – and will continue to be. The topic of mental health and mental illness has been in the news feeds a lot lately so we decided to send this post back to the front page. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your family.


The Blues.  A bit of a funk.  The Twilight.  Down.  Off.


Whatever you call it, it is depression.  If it is somewhat predictable or cyclical, it’s not just you.  It’s more than a mood.  It’s not that you have a harder time coping with stress than others.  It doesn’t mean you are weak.  It’s nothing to be ashamed of.  It is bio-chemical and there are things you can do.

The following oversimplified list was provided to me by my counselor.  My initial reaction was outrage. I suffer privately  for years because of the stigma attached to men’s mental health and finally decide to get help and I get this!!  Over time I’ve come to realize that it really boils down to this list. I call it, The 5.  Interpret as you will.

  1. Get enough sleep.
  2. Eat and drink wisely.
  3. Stay active.
  4. Stay connected with friends and family.
  5. Talk about your feelings.

If you are doing The 5 and you’re still experiencing symptoms of depression, talk to your physician.


Sometimes knowing you are not alone in your suffering can be a huge relief.  Here is a list of posts from other dads who would love to help you deal with depression:

A Blogger and a Father – The Solitary Confinement of Depression. #ForMarc

Krazy Dad Memoir – Do Not Go Into That Good Night

Dad of Divas – The Time Is Now To Ask For Help

Clark Kent’s Lunchbox- Dump Truck Full of Dead Babies

Canadian Dad – The Day the Darkness Crept In

Dads Who Change Diapers – When the World Goes Numb

Dad’s a Lawyer – Words From the Wife

The Daddy Files – Come Back to Me

Be a Little Weird — Recognizing Depression in Men for What It Really Is


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  1. There was a time that I was diagnosed with depression. I was going through all of those tips and one night after my room mate saved me from doing something I would have regretted I saw a physician and things got better after that. Talking it out and getting down the root problem helped me, along with a swift kick in the ass.

    Depression is depression no matter how you put it. If you even think that you might be going through a depressed state. Talk about it and seek help if you need it.

  2. The hard part for me about this topic is I would hate to qualify anything that I’m feeling as depression because of potential disrespect to the real deal. I waited to comment on this one because I wanted to get my own post relative to such feelings up first. I wrote about feelings flawed as a husband/father and it mostly has to do with wishing I was able to control my actions/emotions better when the going gets tough. The long and short of it for me is that when I get overwhelmed, I tend to retreat into myself. I don’t want to talk stuff out and sometimes even participate in family stuff, but rather just want to be left alone to march through this phase by myself. I get short and blunt with my family as if to say, “Cut the shit already, life is hard and I don’t need this on top of it.”

    But then I eventually hash things out with family after my solo time, get a good night’s sleep and life returns to normal. Basically, the 8yo boy in me just needs to selfishly pout in his room for a few and then the 36 year old dad in me just needs someone to listen and then it’s all over.

    Great to have this forum and other dads with perspective to help talk this stuff out.

  3. That list seems awfully simple. I don’t mean that as a criticism, it just seems too simple to be true. It certainly sounds more manageable than a lot of the advice I’ve read, and manageable is something I could use.


    • Rodd Zeiler says:

      Problems are complex, the solutions are often simple… Remember, the key is to recognize depression. It can be masked as so much else, such as a feeling of anger. I have suffered and payed for the price of not recognizing this.

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