The Blues. A bit of a funk. The Twilight. Down. Off.
Whatever you call it, it is depression. If it is somewhat predictable or cyclical, it’s not just you. It’s more than a mood. It’s not that you have a harder time coping with stress than others. It doesn’t mean you are weak. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It is bio-chemical and there are things you can do.
The following oversimplified list was provided to me by my counselor. My initial reaction was outrage. I suffer privately for years because of the stigma attached to men’s mental health and finally decide to get help and I get this!! Over time I’ve come to realize that it really boils down to this list. I call it, The 5. Interpret as you will.
- Get enough sleep.
- Eat and drink wisely.
- Stay active.
- Stay connected with friends and family.
- Talk about your feelings.
If you are doing The 5 and you’re still experiencing symptoms of depression, talk to your physician.
Sometimes knowing you are not alone in your suffering can be a huge relief. Here is a list of posts from other dads who would love to help you deal with depression:
A Blogger and a Father – The Solitary Confinement of Depression. #ForMarc
Krazy Dad Memoir – Do Not Go Into That Good Night
Dad of Divas – The Time Is Now To Ask For Help
Clark Kent’s Lunchbox- Dump Truck Full of Dead Babies
Canadian Dad – The Day the Darkness Crept In
Dads Who Change Diapers – When the World Goes Numb
Dad’s a Lawyer – Words From the Wife
The Daddy Files – Come Back to Me
Be a Little Weird — Recognizing Depression in Men for What It Really Is