When the Diagnosis is Terminal; 4 Things to Remember

My brother Michael fought his oral cancer for as long as he could. He really wanted to live. But like a maelstrom, cancer is an inexorable beast that sucks you in and drives you under.  I drove Michael to his last biopsy. We were not expecting good news. Not only had his tumor returned, it […]

The Hats We Wear

I believe in science. I believe that the natural world can be explained through careful and repeatable experimentation. I believe that many things which were unexplainable in 1414 are now well understood. I believe that many things which we cannot explain in 2014 will be common knowledge in 2614. I believe in the scientific method. […]

Dad vs. Black Dad

The moment you put a label on something you’ve discounted it… you’ve decreased its original value.  There is a reason I’ve never described myself as anything other than a Dad. I have never said young Dad, new Dad, Black dad, geek dad, or anything else. I am a Dad. That should be enough. The moment […]

How I Try to Meditate While Parenting

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When I was very young, my father introduced me to meditation. A very Zen style of meditation that I enjoyed because I felt cool to do the practice. No, really, I thought it made me a cool kid. Most of the time, I thought of myself as this unpopular guy that everyone must think of […]

How I Treat Dry, Itchy Skin on my Face

Living in a northern climate is brutal on your skin. From November to April you feel like you’re part snake, part dog with fleas – dry and itchy. When I was younger a little lotion was all I needed to get through the winter but now that I’m 40 my skin care regime is much […]

Sitting at the wall

I get hung up on results quite often. I have these concepts of what I want to be or what I want to exist in my life, and I take steps toward making that a reality. Yet in the process of doing this, I have this annoying habit of being drawn to outcomes. Results. If […]

7 Things There Should be Vaccines For

I don’t know why the online vaccination debate pops up all the time.  Someone posts an article about the importance getting a vaccination, then the anti-vaxxers come out of the woodwork claiming that it’s all a conspiracy by “Big Pharma” and how they are out to secretly kill us while raking in huge profits.  I love […]

Finding the Positive Moments

Child's artwork, "Sorry you had a bad day, Daddy"

It’s a cliché to say that parenting is hard, but clichés are clichés for a reason: they’re often true. Most parents, if they’re being completely honest, will tell you that sometimes life is so stressful directly because of issues that arise with their kids. Not that parents have more stress than parents without kids — […]

How Career Change Can Impact Parenthood

I turned my world upside down recently, my wife and I both did actually. We both started new jobs this year, and more specifically, new careers. My wife is still a teacher, but she no longer has a class and instead pulls kids out of their classes. She’s a specialty teacher now and helps teach […]

The Maynard Decision: A Cancer Survivor’s Torn Views

Unless you have been living under a rock, then you know the story of Brittany Maynard. The 29-year-old was diagnosed with stage 4 glioblastoma, a very aggressive form a brain cancer, and given just months to live beyond the initial diagnosis. Her and her family moved to Oregon shortly afterwards for the state’s “Death with […]