ManvDadhood

I am a man, and by my wife’s standards that makes me flawed. My challenge to parents, and to myself, is not to teach my kids about the kind of person I hope them to become one day, but to become that person today.


Posts by ManvDadhood

3rd World Frame of Reference

Why would I bring my kids to work a week at corner of love in Nicaragua? I want to give them a third-world frame. In order to give them a lasting global perspective, I would need to do more than point out the struggles and problems the people and children of Nicaragua face. I would […]

I’m Taking My Kids to Nicaragua

American culture has become one of divisive inflammatory rhetoric. Somehow we have come to the collective conclusion that in order to like something, you must hate everything else. If I like blue, that means I am anti-green. If I enjoy apples, then I hate oranges. I am either a dog person or a cat person. […]

The Value of Reflection: Cognitive Observationalism

  I am a typical youngest child. The last in a long line of strong personalities. I was often viewed as spoiled by my older siblings who spent more time in trouble than I was, but I was just raised by older parents than they were. In fact, I got away with more because my […]

Why Have You Forsaken Me?

The longer I’m a parent, the less I understand mine. I don’t know what it feels like to have parents who would do anything to be around their children, or grandchildren. I do know what it’s like to have set reasonable boundaries as I started to build a marriage. I also know what it’s like […]

Cognitions

There is something about taking a moment to be alone with your thoughts.  There is something sacred about being in-tuned with your own inner workings.  Maybe it’s the introvert in me trying to speak out, but I have not felt like myself over the past year or so, and I couldn’t figure out what it was.  I […]

My Interview With Myself as a New Dad

If I knew then what I know now…  At least that’s the idea. If we had our current knowledge in the past, we wouldn’t fall into the patterns we fall into time and time again. These patterns are strong and difficult to break. Many times we don’t recognize the patterns because they reoccur is different […]

What Kids Think About Gay Marriage

I will be honest, I was initially worried about the types of questions I would have to answer or address when taking my kids to a wedding ceremony for someone close to me, who happens to be gay.  I soon realized that my worries were unfounded.  My kids are 8 and 5, and even the […]

Marriage and the Incomplete Man

It was a mistake… It didn’t mean anything… I was weak. These are phrases that break a family apart. We watch it over and over again as a husband allows himself to slowly creep down the not-so-slippery slope of infidelity. We learn amazing ways to justify what leads us into these situations, and try to […]

Roundtable Review: Boom Bat

I have an unfair advantage when it comes to being a parent in the Summer.   I am a teacher,  and even though I don’t have the salary that causes envy,  I do have a schedule that makes people jealous.   I have summers off,  and get to spend them with my family.  While memories are being […]

Struggle Precedes Progress

Somewhere along the lines we got it in our collective American minds that we can have our cake and eat it too.  We have forgotten that when we make our bed, we must, at some point, lie in it.  The past few weeks have brought to the surface an underlying current of biases and prejudices […]